Have you ever felt stuck in a situation? You find yourself painting pictures on your ceiling at night of whatever is bothering you, of the thoughts that just keep repeating themselves in your mind. You feel so heartbroken and torn up you wouldn’t even know where to begin to put yourself back together. I recently found myself doing this. I was just in a situation where I didn’t know what to do, to either choose to hate with everything in me or to forgive and move on with life? I was hurt by the one person I had thought learned to never hurt me. A million things run through your mind. You hear something you never thought would happen to you, your trust feels broken, you can’t look at yourself in the mirror because you just keep asking why me over and over. You feel sorry for yourself, and then you get angry and you don’t understand any of it. What do you choose to do? To continue to love, or start a never ending process of hate and pain?
I chose to forgive, and I’ve never been happier with a decision before. I have so much faith in love and forgiveness. I honestly believe that true love and true forgiveness is magical. It helps you move forward, you gain strength you never thought you had before. You feel things you’ve never felt. Feelings for things feel more powerful and passionate because you chose to benefit yourself. You’re accepting things for what they are and moving forward. People choose to make love, forgiveness, and letting go of things such a difficult process when really it’s meant to be a beautiful thing. People are just so terrified to do something that makes them uncomfortable or forces them to see things from a different perspective. I say go for it…jump. Turn your fear into curiosity. Don’t be scared to let go. Learn to take your hardships and pain and turn them into learning experiences instead of blaming yourself for something that didn’t work out, something that didn’t happen exactly the way you wanted it too. I believe that every time we hurt and get knocked down we learn to pick ourselves up, pick up the pieces and put them back together better than the time before. Life is going to be full of situations where the best thing you can do is love yourself, forgive the ones who hurt you the most, and move on. Let go of hate, swallow your pride, and witness the world like you’ve never seen it before.
Stop being so scared of being hurt. Everywhere you look someone is hurting in some way or another. There’s always so much pain in the world. What if we all just forgave one another? Turn a bad situation into a good one. Never hold on to hate. Put your heart into everything you do, fall in love with everything. It makes life that much more beautiful. At the end of the day if something doesn’t work out, if you’re not feeling the way you thought you would, you can give yourself the credit of trying. The satisfaction of giving something your all. Tomorrow is a new day and everyday is a chance to turn it all around. Life really is short, so forget the bad, and have a good time. Let go and be you.
Dana, this is honestly one of the most sincere things I have read, because I really felt your rollercoaster of emotions throughout the whole thing. This is such an amazing thing to read, because it expressed the fact that life isn’t made of just high points, but also low points that allow us to pick ourselves up and keep on moving. “Never hold on to hate. Put your heart into everything you do, fall in love with everything. It makes life that much more beautiful.” These words are so damn powerful! If a lot more people listened to this, I believe that people would have richer lives, and not hold as many grudges, not hold on to bad memories, and not hold on to hate overall. I’m so glad that you wrote this, and I sincerely hope to see more from you. This is beautiful.
definitely one of the best things i read i understand where you come from dana you know as much as i do it hurts to have trust thrown away with out any thought i love that you can be this open, and i agree with everything but its probably impossible for me to forgive somethings that have happened to me i wish i was as brave as you i wish i could forgive and forget somethings but its too late now and too much has happened for me to just let it go if only i could i would
Great article and thanks for sharing your heart with us.
Blessings to you.
one of the best ones ive ever read. i loved it. i think everyone should read this
I walked the plank not knowing if there were sharks in the water, but before i could fall you grabbed hold of me stronger than ever, you had the chance to let a part of me die but you took me in your arms and forgave me. I know i scarred you but i dig scars, and a scarred heart is stronger than a healthy one because it has hope. If theres one mistake I’ve learned from, it’s this and the knowledge is here to stay. Your an angel to the people you love, i know many that would die for you, but I wanna live with you and if i died in your arms i’d say i lived one heaven of a life. If only people were able to love as easy as you, this world would be a better place.
I totally connected with this and am so happy I am not alone when it comes to forgiving even when you’ve been hit so hard. I am sorta in a similar situation and it really does help to forgive instead of hate. We live this live to please yourself and not others, we can only hope that everyone will catch on. “Let go of hate, swallow your pride, and witness the world like you’ve never seen it before.” I try to tell myself that there are certain people who have yet to learn this direct quote. and to the comment from Dillon, you show me and hopefully other people that there is Hope out there for those certain people. Loved every part Dana so glad its here ! <3
Thank you for all of your comments, they really mean so much
Girlllll, I came across this at just the right moment. I have literally just woken up from a nap during which I had a dream that invoked painful memories. This is so powerful and the way you have phrased things makes the most intense pain not only sound beautiful but actually be beautiful conceptually. Keep on writing because you have healed yourself and others and this process will only gain more and more momentum the more you try. Thank you!
matt i couldnt agree more.. someone with this mentality are the ones who are truely worth being in your life..dana that was amazing
Jimmy Hendrix right? Cool read! I’m glad you chose to forgive…filling up with hate only spreads hate.