The recent ok on gay marriage really got me thinking about the strength of love. First off, I wanna say congrats, yayy gay! I’m a huge believer in love. I think it’s beautiful, all kinds, whether you’re gay, straight, or have no title, everyone has the right to love. The world fights for it and to me, that’s magical. I know that a lot of people get discouraged, they get knocked down because maybe you had a bad childhood, the person you love doesn’t love you back and you’re left with a broken heart, a person close to your heart passed away, maybe you’ve never felt any sort of love and you wouldn’t even know where to begin to feel it, but failure, disappointment, or a broken heart, shouldn’t scare you out of love. Pick up your pieces, and have hope that everything will turn out the way it’s supposed too.
I’ve only been in love once, and it didn’t work out the way that I wanted it too and it brought me down and broke my heart into more pieces than I even knew I had and I swore to myself that I would never love another again but I look at my life and the people that I surround myself with and realize that i’ve loved a lot of things in my life, friends, animals, family, etc, and yes sometimes love is transcendent and mysterious. It does not promise happiness. It may bring you pain and misery and it’s hard. There are times in my life that I’d much rather have gone different ways, made better decisions to protect my heart, let someone know that I loved them before it was too late. I know how difficult it is to lose someone, or to feel that gaping hole in your chest that you can’t fill, but that anguish, that sorrow, made me feel more than I thought I ever could, taught me how to fight for something that I believed in even if in the end it wasn’t worth fighting for, just taking that step for that person who couldn’t made me feel like a better person, it made me more passionate about my future, and taught me that no matter how tough, how horrible, how devastatingly bad life can be, there is always a way through. I know that I have the capability to love another with everything I can give and that’s a beautiful thing to acknowledge. Whoever is reading this, I will tell you that you deserve a beautiful, empowering, life changing love, everyone does, and you will gain it. Don’t give up hope.
I’ll leave you with this quote from “Tuesdays with Morrie,” it’s one of my favorites…”Life is a series of pulls, back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted, life is a tension of opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle…Which side wins?… Love wins. Love always wins.”
