Everyone has seen a girl or guy with a significant other that is physically way out of their league and we all wonder “What’s so special about them?”. Some call it “swag” others refer to it as “game”. I like to keep it simple and skip all of the disguises and label it exactly what it is, confidence. It’s funny because confidence isn’t an unfamiliar concept but at the same time, if someone asked you to describe confidence, or better yet, what makes someone confident, it wouldn’t be the easiest question to answer.
It’s no secret that the most successful people in not just love, but in life are the ones who always seem to believe in everything that they say and/or do. They always come across as in complete control of a situation and have the ability to command your undivided attention without having to say a word. I guess my next question would be, if we all can identify confidence, why do so many people have such a hard time actually being confident?
I’m no exception. I can admit I’ve had the idea for this entry for a while but I would always second guess myself. I would think things like “who died and made me the confidence expert” but these same thoughts opened my eyes to one of the keys to confidence; believing in yourself. I’m not a psychologist or a motivational speaker, nor do I pretend to be. In reality, I’m just a guy who believes in everything that comes out of mouth, and I love myself for that reason. If you don’t believe in what you’re saying you’d be crazy to think anyone else possibly could. The most awkward people, or the confidently challenged as I like to call them, are the ones who that are most insecure and unsure of themselves. Overcoming this little obstacle is easier said than done, but it begins with cutting out comparisons.
As humans, it’s in our nature to constantly want to size yourself up and see where you stand compared to others and I get that. However the problem with this is that is, and please forgive the cliché but for lack of a better phrase, the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence. Think of 1 thing that you are sure that no one in the world is better than you at. Go ahead, I’ll wait. Need more time? No you don’t because you can’t! Therefore it’s important to remember that there are always going to be people who are taller, funnier, in better shape, more intelligent, etc, than you. That’s exactly why it’s easiest to forget about “better or worse” and think in terms of “like and good”. What about you do you Like, and what about you makes you feel good? When YOU feel good, you look good, and you do good, which brings me to my last point, worry about you.
I don’t want to crush anyone’s dreams, but chances are you aren’t a psychic so constantly worrying about what everyone else is thinking is only going to drive you crazy in the end. Besides the fact that most people are too busy worrying about what others think of them to actually think negatively about you, you can’t please everyone all the time anyway. Instead of trying, it would probably be easier to worry about pleasing the person whose thoughts you can read, yourself. No one wants to hear about how great you are , and telling them only proves you value their opinions over your own. It should always be the case that in your world you truly are great, so just think it, feel it and most importantly, be it.
